Crossword clue: re-established friendship = 9 letters.
I struggled over this one, doing as many of the ‘down’ words as I could, attempting to add more letters in to see what the word was. All I could get was the ‘re’ part.
Then a day or so later, in conversation with my husband, he mentioned reconnecting and the word clicked. A re-established friendship was to reconnect.
We’ve all got friends who we haven’t seen for ages, sometimes years, that we would like to reconnect with. All too often we leave it too late, and then its time to go to a funeral. In many cases we catch up with old friends at funerals, and I’m sure if I could be a fly at a wake, one sentence I’d hear repeatedly would be “We must catch up soon!”
How often I’ve said those words, but then not really made the effort to actually do it. Then feel regret when it is too late. This seems to often be the case with relatives, not immediate family but those a little removed and who may live some distance away.
Recently at my father-in-laws funeral, we caught up with cousins we hadn’t seen since the last uncle died, a year before. It was lovely seeing them again, as it had been the last time, but sad too, that we wait until someone actually dies before we get to talk again.
As Ross and I have recently ‘semi-retired’ we have decided to make an effort, now that we have more time, to get in touch with old friends and reconnect. So, with that in mind, we have started the process by holding a dinner party for a small number and use that time to catch up on all thats been happening in their lives.
Last Saturday night we had the first one, and it was great. There were no awkward silences, we all picked up pretty much as we’d left off. We had all spoken to each other over the past few years, but mostly in passing and not real conversations. We had fun, no-one really wanted to go home, so that was a hit, one we will repeat in a few months time. Although with that group it will probably be to play cards together, which was something we used to often do when our children were very young. Another thing we did when the kids were little was to hold progressive dinner parties, so nobody had to go to too much trouble and we all had a turn. Or a ‘pot-luck’ tea, where each family would bring a part of the meal, once again minimising the amount of work by combining our efforts. They used to be such fun, and didn’t cost much either.
Now we are planning the next gathering, be it dinner party or bar-b-que, it will be fun to reconnect with more old friends.
So reconnecting has become somewhat of a challenge, one that we are embracing wholeheartedly.
Do you have anyone that you’d like to reconnect with? Friends, family, former neighbours, schoolmates?
Will you do anything about it?