Nothing in life is perfect. Yet we seem to be striving for perfection. Some of us — like me, fall far from the mark. But isn’t that what life is all about really? I remember as a young girl when I was learning to sew and my mother would make me undo if it wasn’t to her standards, and do again. Much to my disgust, as I had the attitude then that near enough is good enough; and couldn’t see why I had to meet her perfection. Even now I have several crochet projects on the go that haven’t worked out the way I originally intended, so I’ve put them aside to finish later. I often find that later I’m okay with undoing and starting again.
Yet I have an older brother who will try over and over again until he finds his perfection, but I lack the patience. I want results more quickly.
This morning I read a post on Facebook that struck a chord; it was speaking of making mistakes and it was related to crocheting a blanket. It said that the mistakes may not be evident to others, but she knows they are there and how often it is like life. We all make mistakes and sometimes we wish we could change or undo them, but that is not what life is about. This is where we learn and grow.
But it got me thinking about life and how we approach it. We all make mistakes, errors of judgement and sometimes cringe about them, wishing to expunge them from our lives. But we cannot go back and change them. It’s rather like taking the minutes of a meeting, and later thinking that perhaps that wasn’t what was said, then wanting to change it — once the minutes are written, they cannot be undone and any changes must be made by consensus at the next meeting. So with our lives — there has to be either acceptance or apology for us to move on.
There are parts of my life that I wish I could go back and edit — but sadly I can’t. If I could do that then Kelly would be here and life would be so vastly different. As they say hindsight is a wonderful thing.
“You can’t edit life — but you can create a new draft.” cjh
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