Life doesn’t always go as we would like, or as we have planned. That’s a given.
There are often setbacks along the way that can appear to be total roadblocks. This can be rather disappointing and even frustrating at times, whilst we figure out what to do next. Sometimes we might sit at a roadblock for quite some time, not seeing anything but the roadblock, unable to think about how we can move on, go around.
Stuck.
Then come the detours — the often seemingly unrelated detours of life. Sometimes a detour may take you a long way from where you wanted to go, or thought you wanted to go. And occasionally a detour will bring you to a destination you didn’t realise you wanted, but it was a good one anyway.
Life has a way of turning out differently and sometimes even better than we could have imagined. Because sometimes where we end up is really what we wanted, only we didn’t know it at the start.
If we stop and look back on our lives we will see that there were times things went a little haywire before developing into something that felt just right. Times when we thought we were settling for second best, but in reality turned out okay — even great.
There is an old adage that says ‘When one door closes, another one always opens.’ However there is an addition to this — ‘When one door closes, we often look longingly at the closed door and miss the one thats just opened!’ Or words to that effect.
Something goes wrong — or appears to, a friend pats you on the back and says “Everything will turn out all right — it was probably for the best anyway.” And you grit your teeth, smile whilst inwardly rolling your eyes. Then somehow things do work out okay.
So roadblocks don’t always need to be disappointing, because they may lead you to a detour that takes you to a much better place.
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